Domestic violence is a topic that comes along with many misconceptions. Here are some of the more common myths. “Busting” these myths helps us all to understand domestic violence on a deeper level.
- “Domestic violence is where your partner physically hurts you”
Whilst physical harm may often occur in an abusive relationship, domestic violence also includes controlling and coercive behaviour, emotional abuse, and financial abuse.
2. “You can only be a victim of domestic violence in a romantic relationship”
This is untrue. Domestic violence can occur between family members, although it is more common in romantic relationships.
3. “Men can’t be victims of domestic violence”
Men can be and are victims of domestic violence. In the year to March 2024, around 712,000 men in England and Wales were subject to domestic violence. This is about 3% of the adult population. Unfortunately, social stigma can lead to these instances being unreported to anyone, leading to victims suffering in silence.
That being said, it is important to recognise that women are subjected to domestic violence more than men, with 1 in 4 women falling victim (1.6 million in the year to March 2024).
4. “Abuse doesn’t happen in same-sex relationships”
Anyone can experience abuse in their life, including those in same-sex relationships.
5. “If it was that bad, she’d leave”
In many cases, it can be difficult for a woman to leave an abusive relationship. She may find herself staying for many reasons. She may believe her partner when they say they’re “sorry” or that their behaviour “won’t happen again”. Other factors such as children, finances, and housing may influence her ability to leave, with many abusers isolating their victims to ensure they do not have the independence to leave the relationship.
Help is at hand
If you believe you are at risk of domestic violence, it is important to know that there is support available and you are not alone. If you are in immediate danger, call 999.
You can seek help from the police or call one of the helplines below. Do so as soon as possible if you are concerned or afraid.
As explained above, domestic abuse affects men as well as women, and there are dedicated helplines for men who need help and support.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline – Homepage – National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Women’s aid – I need help – information and support on domestic abuse
Victim support – Domestic abuse – Victim Support
Helplines for men:
Men’s Advice Line – Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men | Men’s Advice Line UK
Mankind Initiative – ManKind Initiative – Supporting Male Victims of Domestic Abuse
